I have been thinking of making this post for awhile, and I just figured I should do it, since I had been thinking about it for months.
I am sitting here in my living room in my very first apartment that I am in by myself, and at times I get lonely. Now I will not make this post too negative, but I need to clear the air a bit, and I need to apologize. Being lonely is really my own fault... because
I am a bad friend.
I am horrible at keeping in contact with even my family, and it is worse with my friends. If you don't live within 10 miles of me, I probably will be rubbish at keeping in contact. I am bad with the phone, I don't like calling and talking on the phone, I get restless and feel the need to do something, so most of the time I am playing sudoku or playing around on the internet while I am trying to talk to you. I am sorry. I am horrible on the phone. (Although I have recently tried walking while calling people on the phone, but it has only been tested with my Mom so far.)
I TRULY have been so very blessed to live in many different places, and come to love and cherish so many people. My biggest wish is that I was better at keeping in contact with those I love, or that we could all live in the same town and adventure all the time. But I know that is not realistic.
I just wanted to let you all know that I do love you, and I do cherish getting to call you a friend. I am sorry that I don't keep in touch as closely as I want to. But rest assured I do facebook (or other media outlet) stalk you, and I love when you post pictures of your family's or your vacations, or whatever you are doing. I love you all, and I count myself blessed that I have been able to learn from you, grow with you, cry with you, and most often laugh with you. I want to be someone who can be relied on, who can be called in emergencies, or call when they are needed and wanted. (And yet I hate phones) I want to be someone who has lifelong friends, who is an Aunt to all my friends kids, and who does the holiday cards. I want to be lifelong friends who vacation together, who get to be old and sassy and still laughing together.
Since moving into my own place I have been facing my single person fear... if something were to happen to me... how long would it be for someone to notice my absence? Since I am so bad at communication, would anyone wonder if that hadn't heard from me for days?
So you see, my need to be a good friend is very selfish. I want to be loved, and I want to love. I am sorry I have been so selfish, and I promise to try and improve. I am grateful for your love and patience. Thank you for being so wonderful! Thank you for being my friend. I can only hope that in the present and future I will be a better friend to you!
The Social Justice Perfectionist
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